How do we define a friend? If we are to collect thoughts and descriptions of a friend, most probably we’ll get a countless result based on our experiences. But as we go back to the Word of God that is our plumb line, “
a friend loves at ALL times” (Proverbs 17:17 NKJV).
Loves at ALL times? Hmmmm … yes, I hear you saying .. that is impossible! hahaha! But the truth is, love is always the foundation of friendship. Love doesn’t mean you have to agree in everything at all times but it is in accepting our differences and choosing to see the better side of each other. It is going beyond what we can see or feel that seems to be contrary to what we believe in.
Maturity is found in humility and true humility is knowing your identity in Christ, deeply and unconditionally loved by God that empowers you to choose peace than having to win over an argument. After all it’s not a battle of who’s to win but who opts to let love win.
“This is my commandment, that YOU LOVE ONE ANOTHER AS I HAVE LOVED YOU. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.” John 15:12 NKJV
A friend tells us things that may not make us feel good but is intentionally brought before our faces for our good. It is one who can honestly tell us there’s a crumb on our lip while eating or a morning glory on our eyes at breakfast time. Someone who confidently makes honest suggestions ALL FOR OUR GOOD!
A friend covers a multitude of our wrongdoings. That’s what love does. Someone who can boldly tell us what they think of what they’re seeing in our lives, not tolerating yet never manipulating but respecting after it being said and done … with lips sealed not to spread it but with mouths open to lift us up in prayer.
A friend cannot be with us at ALL times. In fact NO ONE can but God. There may be times when our friends are millions of miles away but the truth is, the love of our friends cannot be measured by the frequency of us being together. It is based on how we often think of each other and make a move to touch base every now and then that brings warmth into our hearts and smiles on our faces.
We shouldn’t feel bad if our friends only remember us when they need us. Instead, we should be privileged knowing that in their need we can make a difference, the very reason why they called us. We should be honored to be considered as a candle that comes to their minds when they are in darkness. That only means one thing … that in their need, we can be trusted in and can be counted on.
“As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” Proverbs 27:17 NLT
Bottom line is … “Be a friend just like who you desire a friend to be towards you.
“Just as you want men to do to you, you also do to them likewise.” (Luke 6:31 NKJV)